The Entitlement of White Women: (Keep Your Feminism)

Do white women understand their privilege? Of course not. And they'll scream, cry and gaslight you until you back down and start doubting your initial idea.

But they do. They do know it. They've seen the differences in the way you are treated versus the way that they are treated.

They know that their tears will get them to wherever they want to be.

They are shameless in their tone deaf attempts to infiltrate the spaces specifically made to provide safety for us, the black woman.

So almost immediately after I started SAMA, in came the "all women get abused" and "why do you make everything about race?" messages. No Karen. Why don't you make everything about race? Perhaps if you did, you would notice the huge disparities in the ways that black women are mentally, sexually and physically abused and you aren't. You aren't being killed almost every 6 hours.

But they ignored that response and the data I provided.

Then again we're women too right? Feminism is for women, by women.... so shouldn't more of them be supportive of SAMA and the efforts to get black women out of deadly situations?

This tone deaf entitlement is more than just online.

It happens in the grocery store, at the nail salon, at work.... yes at work.

By the way, will we ever openly talk about the ways White Women operate behind the scenes to have their black woman co-workers set out to dry?

I can think of numerous situations where a white woman did something behind my back that caused tension between myself and other co-workers OR actively prevented me from advancing into a promotion. But we're all women right? There isn't any white female privilege right? Especially when white women were the ones to benefit most from affirmative action.

We need to be able to address the elephant in the room. And that is consciously or subconsciously, white women believe that they deserve better than black women. Think about it. While you're talking about the struggles that you encounter as a black woman, they are quick to downplay your concerns with terms like "strong" and "tough" while they have a full nuclear meltdown over waiting in line too long.

There is no way that they can't tell the stark differences. It was for this reason that I chose to lean away from my friendships with white women. The disingenuous concern for black lives matter in summer of 2021 had become all to clear for me when a friend asked what she could do to help in the movement but blatantly ignored the opportunity to acknowledge the difference in treatment she and I received when we went out together was my first clue.

White women are in full competition with us. And no, I'm not talking a biological competition. I'm talking a full on competition for EVERYTHING. Men (even black men), beauty style, status, etc. (ever heard of Tignon laws)? One could even argue that perhaps the deep hatred white women have for black women started black in slavery when their husbands would find themselves attracted to black african slave women. Of course white women at that time could do nothing more than sulk in jealousy but I digress.

And if you don't think they are competing with us, how do you explain the sudden push for body modifications that have always been attributed to black women? Now white women are getting their lips plumped, their butts pumped and their skin as dark as they can without being accused of blackface. And then they bring an attitude of entitlement into black spaces, hanging off the arm of any black man that will have them, making sure that black women are fully aware that their children are "black". But we are all women. We're all sisters. Feminism.

And despite the your political stance, white women spoke a good game about chauvinistic Donald Trump yet turned out for him in the polls. So they recruited us to fight for white feminism but where are they returning the support? Are they standing with us when we cry out about OUR issues? I think you know the answer.

I get it. We want allies--everyone does. But look at our options: Collectively, black men contribute very little if anything to our communities as they abuse and kill us daily. White women are there when their own interests are at the forefront but go ghost when we need support or attack our initiatives to support other black women. Its been theorized that since white women and black men are only one step away from the ultimate power--being a white male-- that they see themselves as better than black women specifically. While I'm not sure about this, it's important that we see things for what they are. Everyone isn't an ally.