Welcome to SAMA

 Welcome to SAMA- Sisters Against Mental Abuse

Our mission is to eliminate violence against black women where it often starts-- mental and emotional abuse-- by spreading awareness of the signs and advocating for mental abuse to be taken as seriously as physical abuse.

The data on domestic violence is a reflection of the grim reality facing black women, we are among the most likely to experience domestic violence and the most likely to be killed in these situations by our male partners.

But often times, domestic violence starts small because abusers like to test the waters. Maybe your partner tells you that you said something that you know for a fact you didn't. The situation ends with you questioning your own reality and your memory. Did you really say that about his mother? 2 hours later, the abuser has argued you down and you're so mentally exhausted that they "win" and you hate yourself for having a bad memory. 

Maybe you're having a great time at a family gathering and a family member callously brings up something you are deeply insecure or embarrassed about, forcing you to feel uncomfortable for the rest of the night in your very skin for their own entertainment.

Or maybe arguments get too heated very quickly and your partner gets way too comfortable yelling, screaming and verbally attacking you. He apologizes later, saying he was just mad at the time.

These are all incidents of mental abuse and they barely scratch the surface. Black women are at risk. And the earlier we can identify these behaviors and find a safe way out, the better.

 

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